Monday, February 14, 2011

Cierto ritmo

Con esto de las maduraciones, los envejecimientos o el crecimiento espiritual, creo que he entendido dos que tres cosas acerca de la crianza de los hijos. No son revelaciones del tercer tipo ni nada por el estilo, simplemente realizaciones, momentos interiores de verdad y de luz.
Growing, getting old and "getting it" seem to go hand in hand...at least lately. I have been thinking about some deep moments of realization in regards to my child-rearing dynamic.

Uno de ellos, y el que principalmente me "ocupa", es el ritmo casero. El ritmo diario de las ninas, de la casa, de la estructure familiar. Gracias al cielo nosotros tenemos toda la autoridad de determinar el ritmo de esta, su casa, asi que el padre y yo nos hemos procurado darles a las hijas un ritmo y una dinamica constante. Quizas no la mas normal a ojos del mundo, pero la unica que parecia conformarse a las necesidades de nosotros. Ahora que vivimos aqui en Ontario, el ritmo semanal lo marca primariamente la dinamica de llevar a Adica a la escuela, y a partir de ahi todos nos acoplamos a lo que hay que hacer.
One of those realization moments, is the rhythm of our household. The daily rhythm of the girls, of our house, of our family structure. Thanks to the heavens we have all the authority to set up our own dynamic system, and so Dad and I have always strived to provide our daughters with a constant rhythm. Now that we live here, the weekly routine is more or less set by Adica's school activities, and surrounding this we make adjustments and do whatever has to be done.


Uno de los pequenos detalles que tengo para marcar en mis hijas una rutina que recuerden con carino, y que las ancle a su ninez es la rutina del fin de semana. Los viernes hago limpieza semi-general, limpio pisos, procuro tener terminada la mayoria de la lavanderia, lavo los banos y aspiro muy bien todas las areas que lo necesitan, revision del refrigerador de sobras de comida acumuladas durante la semana, etc. Lo principal es hacer cambio de sabanas ese dia, para que las ninas se despierten con esa sensacion de bienestar al despertar el sabado por la manana, y que de cierta manera se prolonga al domingo tambien. Despertar sabiendo que no hay que levantar a la hija para ir a la escuela, que las camas se sienten limpias, y que tenemos dos dias por delante para convivir y pasarnoslo de lo mas padre, es un sentimiento que espero les quede grabado. Las ninas se levantan antes que nosotros, juegan en su cuarto de juguetes, hacen su desorden y luego vienen a despertarnos cuando ya tienen hambre. Yo por supuesto que oigo todos sus va y vienes, pero no me levanto, las dejo a rienda suelta en su casa durante estas horas tempranas de la manana.

One small detail that I have incorporated to cement my children in their childhood and to set the weekend routine is this: on fridays I try to do a general cleaning. I wash floors, try not to have laundry to do, clean bathrooms and vacuum carpet areas, toss week-old leftovers in the fridge, etc. The main thing is to change the bed sheets, so when everybody wakes up on Saturday morning, you have that wonderful feeling of waking up in a clean set of sheets and knowing that you don't have to get up to go to school or do anything at all. That we have two whole days to do as we please, together. I hope this wonderful morning feeling stays with them through out their lives, and it brings them comfort when they are much older. Usually, on Saturdays the girls wake up and play, and come to our room when they are hungry. I of course hear them, and know what they're up to but I don't get out of bed, I leave them to have their house to themselves in this special mornings.

Poco a poco he ido adaptando ideas, adaptando dinamicas, adaptando lo que nos funciona, porque quiero vivir esta vida con un poco mas de conciencia, y con mucho mas agradecimiento por lo que benditamente se me ha proporcionado.



Little by little I have been adapting dynamics, routines and small rhythms to our family life, because I wish to live a little more mindfully and also because I strive to acknowledge and be grateful for all that has been graciously given to me. Do you have any special memories of routines you had with your own kids, or things you remember from your childhood? I am curious to hear.

5 comments:

Lauren said...

We have sheet day also but I love the idea of switching to Friday for the reasons that you proposed. We have a bedtime ritual with our girls that if the cornerstone to our evening and sometimes I think I could not function without it. I would love to have a similar ritual to start our day because I feel that we lack a sense of peaceful rhythm in the morning.

Tanpopo said...

Routines of my childhood revolve around food. Every friday evening, my mother would make our favorite dessert : crème mic-mac (chocolate and vanilla cream). As Monday mornings are very difficult for my kids, I make pancakes for them every week to smooth things up (you have to know that nobody makes pancakes in France ! It makes these monday mornings quite unique !).
Also, every two weeks, I throw myself into chocolate pastery : chocolate éclair, chocolate macaron, and so on ... Everyone at home seems to enjoy this "tradition" !

Fabiola Perez-Sitko said...

Lauren, yes. We also have a very well rounded nighttime routine, and it kinda sets the pace for ours after dinner. Mornings here are pretty OK, mind you I only have to deal with one little girl as the other one is in school. Morning involves personal clean-up, breakfast, play and then off we go into the usual tidying up and activities of the day.
Anne-Sophie, I love that the routines you remember are surrounding food. So french!! I love it, and that you are doing that with your kiddos...now, that's a tradition!

Mari said...

Wow!

Siempre me haces pensar :)

Me encanto el un poco mas de conciencia y mucho agradecimiento.

Tienes todisisisisisima la razon

A veces damos por sentado las cosas mas importantes.

Ame lo de las sabanas limpias el fin de semana... en una de esas te copio! :)

Excelente post Fabs!

Atelier e-Couture said...

Que linda lectura! Me gusta haber pasado por aqui :)
Victoria.